Be a responsible cyber-citizen and protect your self from Hackers, Spam, Predators, married cheaters, ect.
Always practice common sense, while following our safety suggestions to keep yourself safe and secure online and offline:
Online Dating Tips
Keep Personal Details Personal-
Never reveal your personal details on your profile such as your full or last name.
Never give away an email address with your name in it.
Don’t tell people where you work, live, or what gym you go to.
Never give away any bank information or social security numbers.
Do a background check-
Applying common sense safety can only get you so far. Get an affordable peace of mind service, to make sure your date doesn’t have a hidden criminal background like lawsuits, a spouse, bankruptcies, judgments, felonies/misdemeanors, sex offender, etc.
(NOTE: Only members who pay for the background check service, can view and be matched to others, who also paid for a background check. See details here…
Google Your date-
If you happen to have your dates full name, visit a search engine and type in your contacts first and last name as keywords to see what comes up on the “web”.
Then hit the “images” link at the top of the page to search for all photos related to that name. (If you can’t find additional pics they might not be a real user. Regular people have a variety of photos on different websites that should show up in image search results).
To avoid disappointment or scams check:
If the member’s photos were taken as if they are super MODELS. Chances are they stole it off the Internet and tried to be someone they’re not.
Regular members photos usually have IMPERFECTIONS and are not too perfect. (People rarely put up pics taken by a professional photographer)
Visit their photo gallery. If the member has only one model photo or all of the pictures are TAKEN at the SAME LOCATION & SETTING, chances are its fake.
Spotting a cheater
No Photo- A married person will not put up a photo online because they don’t want to be recognized. (They can put up a fake photo, but usually don’t put up a photo at all. ) Be cautious of profiles without photos. If you’re interacting with someone without a photo ask them to add one. If they have noting to hide it shouldn’t be a problem.
They are often very secretive about their life and do not like to reveal too many details about themselves online such as where they live, work, family, their last name, upbringing, etc. They don’t want you to look them up and find out their martial status.
Their phone goes into voicemail every time you call, so that they can call you back when it suits them.
When they answer, they talk in a low voice or hang up abruptly.
You have known them for a while and they have your phone number, but they refuse to give you their number. Watch out for these dead give a ways!
Watch closely and you’ll notice, Married people usually have a certain pattern that they follow where they are only online at certain times, and if they call you it is at certain times.
They avoid paying for things-
They join free sites, and avoid buying things like gifts, online date suggestions, or playing Charity Date Auctions, because they do not want the gifts balance to show up on their credit card or bank statement.
They avoid paying for the optional background check because they want to hide their marital status and want a quick fling.
They often pay for things with cash to not leave a paper trail of where they were and when.
Offline Dating Meeting-
Always meet in public-
Always meet in a populated, public location that you’re familiar with such as your favorite crowded restaurant.
Never meet in a private, remote area like their home, or apartment, or dark place. A first date is not the time for a hike in the wilderness or a remote place.
Always be aware of your surroundings.
Go Your Own Way–
Do not accept a ride from the date. Take your own car, have a friend drive you, or take a taxi to the date.
Gossip to a friend-
Tell a friend or family member your plans of where you’re going, who you’re meeting (their contact info) and when, and when you expect to be back?
Prior to a date, use our easy “Got Your Back”date form, to notify your online friend the important details listed above, that you made it home safe, and perhaps the juicy stuff!
Make sure you have your cell phone on and with you. If you change the date’s location, such as moving to a different club, text or call your friend to notify them.
Refrain from doing anything that would impair your judgment and lead to poor decision making that you could regret. Getting thrashed is also poor dating etiquette.
Watch Your Personal Items-
Don’t leave your personal belongings unattended at any time. You don’t want to have your personal details stolen.
That includes drinks. (You don’t want to risk it being tampered with date rape drugs.)
Safe Long Distance Meetings-
Stay in a hotel-
Check into a hotel yourself, and avoid staying at the other person’s home. If you can’t afford it don’t go.
Keep Your Location Confidential-
Keep the name of the hotel private until you know each other and know their intentions.
Arrange meeting in public till you’re comfortable with each other.
Research where you’re going and familiarize yourself with the customs, traditions, dangers, weather, and geographical information to make your trip safer and more enjoyable. (You’ll appear well prepared, knowledgeable, and you’ll have the right gear packed to see all the important sites.)
Who knows your leaving?
Remember to tell someone where you’re going, who you’re meeting, and how long you will be gone.
If traveling overseas, leave copies of your passport, visas, itinerary, and accommodations.
Stay in touch with family through email and phone calls.